Helping Children Cope with the Anniversary Effect

The anniversary of September 11 is likely to be a time of heightened tension and anxiety as we re-experience the tragedy in newspapers, on TV and through memorials. Children and teenagers may be particularly susceptible to feelings of anger, vulnerability and fears of future terrorist attacks. As parents, relatives and caregivers, there are a number of ways you can support them:

• Encourage your kids to talk about their feelings or ask any questions they might have as they are reminded of the tragic attacks.


• Ask young children to draw pictures or write about their feelings if they are having difficulty.


• Don’t force a discussion — especially with teenagers who tend to downplay their concerns or not talk about how they feel. Let your kids know that you are available anytime they want to talk.


• Limit exposure to disturbing media reports of the tragedy, and be sure to watch/read the news with your kids. Talk about what you have seen.


• Encourage your kids to continue their usual activities, and do your best to provide a balanced diet as well as adequate rest and leisure time.


• Remind your kids that this tragedy was caused by specific individuals — and that no one should generalize the blame to an entire race, religion or group of people.


• Remember that you are also dealing with reminders of a traumatic event. Take steps to ensure your own physical and emotional well-being.


• Don't be surprised if some children don't appear to be affected by the reminders. Not everyone has immediate reactions, and some kids may never have a reaction. The important thing is to be there for your kids if and when they do.

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